Marriages…on The Journey
A marriage does not explode. There is seldom one event that causes partners to call it quits. Rather, the demise of a marriage is best described as a slow leak. Over time, the air escapes and the relationship goes flat. Marriage researchers, Notarius and Markman write “…people do not fall out of love the way they do out of trees. Relationship decline is neither a sudden nor inevitable process. When love and happiness do decline, it usually follows a steady and relentless erosion….”
Solomon said that the little foxes ruin the vineyard (Song of Solomon 2:15). Small, yet consistent bites over a period of time, suck the life out of a once vibrant plant.
Unfortunately, when the leak is not repaired, when the “little foxes” are not chased from the vineyard, bigger issues can occur that cause seemingly irreversible damage to the relationship.
The key to a healthy and long-lasting relationship is to deal with the “little” irritations and frustrations. If couples will spend more time fixing the leaks, they will spend less time changing the tire.
In coming blogs, I will give you some instruction on how to deal with those slow leaks. But don’t wait for another blog…start doing your part to repair the leaks today.
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Pastor Ron I have a question . Don’t know if you have an answer on any comments. What does it take to motivate people to see the vision and to see that God is opening the doors for us? We are a growing church with 20-25 members but no except for my wife and I are willing to do the work. God has opened some doors us to start up smoe bible study classes out side of our church. And like you said when we first started praying for this to happen everyone was excited and now nothing. What do I do?